If there's one area where there should be no judgment, it's our sexuality and intimate practices, as long as we are all consenting.
According to a December 2019 Ifop survey, French women were European champions in oral sex and anal sex, with 75% of women aged 18 and over regularly practicing oral sex and 21% practicing anal sex, respectively.
Still taboo and perceived as unnatural, anal sex, and more broadly anal pleasure, is finding its way into our sexuality. However, anal sex still raises questions and concerns and continues to fuel many debates.
Assumptions and questions?
Indeed, when we talk about anal sex, several questions and assumptions come to mind. That's why Aphrodite, editor-in-chief at Oh My God’Z, will shed some light on this topic for you.
Does the first time having anal sex necessarily hurt?
Just like a first vaginal sexual encounter, the first time having anal sex requires a little preparation to avoid it being painful. Anal sex that goes well is anal sex that is well prepared!
But how do you prepare it well? By getting a very gentle, water-based lubricant like one of our favorite organic lubricants: Lubricant - Bio sensitive 50ml (ohmygodz.fr)
But also by stimulating the erogenous zone, being attentive, and relaxing. We'll come back to that later.
Is anal sex dirty?
We've all heard from someone in our circle that "anal sex is dirty!" Except that in reality, anal sex is neither dirty nor unnatural. Rest assured, you won't be subject to "certain odors" because fecal matter in the colon simply doesn't have an odor. Moreover, if practiced gently, there's no risk of finding yourself in an embarrassing situation. No worries!
Should you use a condom for anal sex?
There's little chance of getting pregnant during anal sex, even if, during ejaculation, if it occurs, the man's semen could get on your genitals and, in rare cases, lead to fertilization of the egg. However, by practicing anal sex, you are not immune to contracting a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI). That's why it is advisable to use a condom!
Can you experience pleasure with anal sex?
For both women and men, pleasure is often multiplied because the anus is, on the one hand, tighter than the vagina, and on the other hand, the anus has numerous nerve endings (more than the vagina). This is also the case when men receive anal sex, particularly thanks to prostate stimulation.
People who enjoy anal sex also say they are satisfied with fulfilling a fantasy, defying a taboo, or giving immense pleasure to their partner.
Anal sex is degrading
Anal sex can only be degrading if you force yourself to practice it! You do what you want with your body and your sexuality. No one can judge you on that!
It's men's favorite sexual practice
Even though anal sex offers particularly pleasant sensations for men, it is not necessarily their favorite. Each person is different; sensations and desires vary, it's up to you to discuss it calmly.
Can anal sex be practiced during menstruation?
Of course, you can practice anal sex during your period; it's often even an alternative for continuing to have intercourse. No more risks than usual.
Can anal sex be practiced during pregnancy?
According to sexologist Gérard Leleu, "There are no contraindications to practicing anal sex during pregnancy. When the mother's cervix is prematurely open or when there is a threat of hemorrhage, anal sex may even be indicated. But on one condition: the woman must be completely consenting."
Can you get pregnant during anal intercourse?
As mentioned above, the "only risk" of getting pregnant comes from sperm flowing onto your genitals. To reassure yourself, use a condom or at least instruct your partner to ejaculate "outside."
Does anal penetration hurt?
Why practice anal sex?
For men, pleasure comes from the prostate. As for women, beyond psychological enjoyment, they can feel physical pleasure thanks to the clitoral nerve bundle that connects to the anus.
As you will have understood, the practice of anal sex is above all a quest for pleasure. Anal stimulation will allow you to discover new sensations, broaden the horizons of pleasure, and multiply it!
Who is anal sex for?
Sensitive to prostatic orgasm, most men could experience pleasure during anal penetration. Some succeed and eventually enjoy it. Others, on the contrary, do not wish to try this practice, and that is legitimate!
Anal sex is therefore for everyone, women and men. It can be tried and adopted by anyone wishing to practice it.
How to practice anal stimulation?
Using sex toys
Anal sex solo?
Just like masturbation, practicing anal penetration without a partner can help prepare for anal sex and also lead to a more intense orgasm.
How to prepare for anal sex?
Here are our tips for preparing for anal sex and having pleasure
- Build trust: Have confidence and build trust, that's the foundation. Be attentive and discuss before, during, and after.
- Focus on experience/practice: As in all areas, it's with practice and experience that we get better
- Maintain hygiene: It's imperative to have good hygiene! Prioritize anal sex after you've washed and don't hesitate to use an enema bulb if you wish. Good hygiene will give you more confidence.
- Lubricate: Always use lubricant. This will protect you from some pain and enhance your comfort. A water-based lubricant is essential. Find our scented, water-based lubricants here: Lubricant - For slippery encounters (ohmygodz.fr)
- Relax your body: The more relaxed you are, the better it will be! Being tense will certainly lead to pain
- Go gradually: Don't hesitate to stimulate your anus with caresses or an anilingus; you need to go slowly to relax and build pleasure
- Don't forget other pleasure zones: There's more to life than just the anus! Don't forget other erogenous zones like the clitoris, labia, ears, etc.
- Manage the withdrawal moment: As with entry, it's crucial to "withdraw" gently and by informing the other person to avoid any discomfort.
- Know how to say no and stop: The most important thing remains your consent, that of the other person, and your pleasure; you should never force yourself!
What are the best positions for anal sex?
In general, the "best" positions are spooning and doggy style, but this will depend on each individual. Don't hesitate to try others to form your own opinion.The risks of anal sex
Infections
As with other practices, you are not immune to infection, especially when transitioning from anus to vagina. It is preferable to change condoms or not to vary without cleaning the genitals.